Dealing with Dissapointment

Tomi Ogeye
2 min readAug 19, 2022

I have been busy! A hobby of mine has become something more! I recently started a business…ish! I had a test run at an outdoor market. It went well. I think I’ll launch officially, next year. But that’s not why I haven’t been writing. I have. I have been writing other things is all.

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Here I am again, a major reason why I took a break from this platform was a disappointing situation that I experienced. I was honestly quite devastated. I felt misunderstood and attacked. I felt let down. I’ll go into the details in the future but I felt bad and not motivated to write here. It takes time, I know. Maybe you have been disappointed by a partner, friend, situation, grade, or circumstance. Here are healthy ways to deal with it:

  1. Time away: I took some away from the things that had caused me disappointment. I tried to shut off from thinking about it. I focused my energy on being creative which led me to my business. Taking time to regroup and reset is a great first step in overcoming disappointment.
  2. Plan: some disappointing situations can be avoided with careful planning. If they do occur, I think it’s best to plan for them not to in the future. Once you’ve taken time to process and reset, then return and create a plan of action for a more positive outcome in the future.
  3. Talk: for me, talking is cathartic. I have learned that in most cases, the more you talk about something, the better you process, analyze, and move on from it. Not as great as writing sometimes, but it helps.
  4. Focus on the good: I like to focus on the good. After processing the situation, then look at the things you have learned about the situation. Also, focus on the ways this situation can help you grow and be better.

Dealing with disappointment is an ongoing endeavour in my experience. Sometimes I remember the situation and relive the emotions and disappointment I felt. That’s okay. The more I condition myself to focus on the good, the better it becomes.

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Tomi Ogeye

I love human beings. I love writing about what defines and influences me. I explore education, lifestyle, positivity, femininity, relationships, books, and God.